The happiness myth

December 28, 2010

For a while, I was a subscriber to a blog called The Happiness Project. Gretchen Ruben has written a book by that title and hosts a very creative blog site, with some very interesting ideas.  I will probably go back to it sometimes soon, but because I was feeling like I was being a bit too focused on me (my own personal happiness, and not the happiness of others.) I stopped reading The Project for a while.

The other reason I temporarily dropped it was the disgust I have been feeling toward a couple of my men friends who, in defense of their reprehensible behavior, claimed their god-given right to happiness.  I used a lower case “g” purposely, because these intelligent, but stupid acting men were (are) worshiping idols.  Their idiocy and infidelity have nothing to do with God, and everything to do with the god of self.

I would like to ask these men to show me one place in the Bible God promises happiness.  I would like to point out that 95% of the world population is struggling for their very survival, they don’t have time to pursue the American Dream (the American Dream, not the American promise) of happiness.

Happiness comes from keeping your promises, fulfilling your vows, and living an honorable, just life, not collecting toys and women.

The Declaration of Independence states, “We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”  But the right to pursue happiness does not negate or nullify our wedding vows.  If you want more happiness, pursue it with your spouse for crying out loud.

The Bible promises joy to those of us who choose to live by its principles, and to obey God.  It doesn’t allow divorce, let alone cheating, for the self-seeking, self-serving, self-interest of personal happiness.  Sheesh!

Nowhere is there written or unwritten some “universal” right, granted to men in particular that allows them to treat their wives like excrement so that the man can be happy.  Double sheesh!

Oh, yea, people who really know happiness, and who know real happiness, like Gretchen Ruben, know that lasting, meaningful happiness comes from meeting someone else s needs, serving something higher and greater than one’s self, transcending the gimme gimme attitude of immaturity, and embracing generosity.

That is where happiness can be found.

So you men out there thinking your wife is not making you happy and therefore you have the right to ignore God, your wedding vows, and common sense are simply making fools of yourselves, and you will reap the whirlwind before long.  Humble yourselves, repent and apologize before God, your spouse, and your family.  And find the happiness that comes with reconciliation, right thinking and right living.


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