The hardest job

July 20, 2009

“Learning the art of meaningful discussion with your child can be the hardest part of being a parent.”  (Page 115)  Chapter 12 of 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family, gets right to it.  Do you want to be a “successful” parent?  Do you want to have open honest communication with your kids?  Of course you do.  It’s sometimes difficult, sometime almost impossible, but if you achieve this lofty goal you almost guarantee your child’s success in life.  Big statement but true.  Have regular communication with your teen and you help them with almost every area of their life.

If the outcome is so great, why do so few do it?  Well for one thing, it’s hard.  I have difficulty having one-on-one conversations with almost anyone, let alone a teenager.  The second reason is we often assume that our kids don’t want to talk to us..this is wrong assumption.  They would love it, they just don’t necessarily know it or, know how to show it.

So Rebecca Hagelin give a few prescient points.  They are found on pages 119-120 of her terrific book.  Get a copy to fully flesh out these ideas.

  • Make yourself availablewilliamsburg day 3 199
  • Always offer to drive…
  • Drive your child to school…
  • Turn of the television …
  • Initiate, initiate, initiate.

I don’t think we need to be world class orators to get our kids attention.  We just need to let our kids know we care and offer an ear and a voice.  Take the initiative, make the time, be there.   “End every conversation with a positive and encouraging comment.”

As we’ve mentioned all through our conversation with this book, if we give our kids time, positive words of love, and encouragement they will be and feel more secure, and less likely to engage in unsavory behavior.  Is it worth the effort?

30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family, 2009, Rebecca Hagelin, Regenery Press

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