If it was easy anyone could be a parent.

July 8, 2009

DSCN0665It’s been about a month since I’ve visited Rebecca Hagelin’s fine book, 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family.  Lets get back to work shall we?

Chapter six starts with a terrific question, “Do you know your family?” (page 57).  According to this book, a study by the Associated Press and MTV (!?) found, “spending time with family was the number one activity that kids between 13 and 24 said makes them happy.  It makes a huge difference.”  (Page 58)

Study after study sited in this book reiterates what we instinctively know: being there makes a difference, it tells out children that we  love them and care about them.  When should we be there?  Well, the book of Deuteronomy (6:7 says we should, “Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”  The Bible, and the studies sited in this chapter agree that we need to be there when our kids get up and when they go to bed; mealtimes are crucial.

The simple question is what is more important than your family? The tough answer is, nothing. And our presence is more important than our presents.  We are more important to our kids than our income is.  Being happy and being poor are not mutually exclusive, but kids without parents around are less happy.

It’s not easy, but the path is clear: be there.  I know it’s much easier to say than to do it.  I know. That’s why parenting is for grown-ups, it’s hard work.  But there is no other work you could do that is more important.

30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family, 2009,  Rebecca Hagelin,Regenery Publishing

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